WHAT A GREAT LESSON

WHAT A GREAT LESSON
 A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How
heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it.
If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think
about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed –
incapable of doing anything." Remember to put the glass down

YOUR EX IS NOT YOUR FRIEND

YOUR EX IS NOT YOUR FRIEND
Are you a friend to your Ex? do you talk often? Are you always chatting, Meeting up, etc? If the answer is yes to any of these questions then the man or woman you call Ex is not.
You can't be friends with your Ex, and this particular topic is causing a lot of mayhem in many relationships; one spouse is comfortable talking to the ex, while the other wonders ‘what at all do they talk about’? Why did they let that relationship go? Their response is, ‘I can't hate my Ex, he or she is just a friend’.
Love usually starts from being strangers, to friends, then lovers. Anytime the love is over, you get back to your default status which is strangers who are familiar; not enemies and it doesn’t mean you hate your Ex.
Familiar in the sense of what we once had or shared, but the relationship, feelings and what we once shared is dead. What is left in the archives is history. Because we are no longer together, there is nothing to talk about or celebrate for we have learnt our lessons and moved on.
No matter how good a medicine or drug is it can only work best before death, but after death nothing can be cured. It is same with relationships.

Love is possible after friendship but friendship is not possible after love.
The only time friendship is possible after love is when love is still present and not gone at all. The only time medicine can cure is when death has not occurred; if the medicine still works then one is not dead yet or just pretending to be dead.
Being an Ex means thank you for your time, relationship, love, experience, memories. We are done and have moved on. This is why you need all the time to examine your relationship and be sure if you need some space to think things over or really want to end it. If you don't do this process right, you always cause trouble for your next relationship.
It even has the power to spark cheating, insecurity or even end your new relationship prematurely. When there are unresolved conflicts, lack of affection and satisfaction, one is tempted to go back to the Ex. Anytime something goes wrong, you are quick to compare your relationship with what you had with your Ex.
Since attention breeds affections, constant communication with your ex can start a relationship you never planned. Again, talking to your Ex can most at times bring back some memories which can send you back into each other’s arms.
Never make your partner feel insecure if you really love them and want to be with them. Make them your only one, not your number one with the Ex on the bench waiting for an opportunity to correct their mistakes or win your love.
If you can lose someone you never dreamt of losing which is your Ex, please replace them with someone you never dreamt of having and stick to them by choice...
A word is enough for the wise!!!
So stop fooling yourself...
WRITTEN BY 
KINGS VENTURES

THE MAN CALLED "82 DIVISION"

THE MAN CALLED "82 DIVISION"
His name is Kingsley but because of his rugged stance to war bay issues we labelled him 82 division. He never flops neither does he live below expectation. In every command function, punctuality is his watchword. I admire him for his discipline and cherish his agility when jungle mature. He was one of those that accompanied me inside the bush the day we led siege against some cultist behind hostel C from 12am to around 2am of which we ended up catching 15 cult members.
He meditates everyday between 4am to 5am with his fingers crossed while sitting on his bunk and sometimes in the afternoon. He was my lieutenant, roommate, a brother and an agile personality but the only problem is that 82 never believed in God or Jesus Christ. In fact he often say to the hearing if people that God is very stupid and that Jesus is a hopeless person for dying for others. In fact any attempt to sway his beliefs often lead to aeries of insult against God. He is not a womanizer and a good guy to relate with. We often think and thought he was diabolical but the only proof is the ring in his index finger. Till date I think i was the only person who removed the ring but gave it back to him. He hates everything about God and detest Jesus Christ with no reason.
So I later had a fall out with him in my 4th year as he was in his 3rd year in law faculty. Although I had a lot of fall out with so many persons especially principal officers of the co

mmand that led to my compulsory retirement from the command. My fall out with 82 was a serious blow because he treated me with contempt. So you can imagine how I felt to see him in church today with his bible. I often pray for him and was so so excited to shake his hands once again. He said he will call me after I tried the number he gave me which didn't go through. I gave him my complimentary nevertheless.
There are many like him all over the world and yet we profess Christianity. I believe that actions should speak more than words. Jesus never ask us to show love only to those who love us but also to those who hate us and treat us unfairly.
So I dedicated this write to all those struggling to accept the truth about the lordship of Jesus. You lose nothing by taking a step of faith rather you gain all the more! So so happy!!
Written by  
Bar. Uchenna Onyeoguzoro

SURGEON JUMPS FROM BRIDGE AFTER DIVORCE FROM TV PERSONALITY WIFE

SURGEON JUMPS FROM BRIDGE AFTER DIVORCE FROM TV PERSONALITY WIFE

A top local surgeon and the ex-husband of ABC News’ chief women’s health correspondent killed himself by leaping off the George Washington Bridge, it was reported Sunday.
Dr. Robert Ashton, 52 — who was divorced from Dr. Jennifer Ashton two weeks ago — jumped from the span around 8:40 a.m. Saturday, the Fort Lee Daily Voice said.
The pair lived across the street from each other in Fort Lee, which is in the shadow of the bridge.
“Our hearts r broken that the father of my teenage children took his own life yesterday,” Jennifer Ashton wrote on her Facebook page Sunday.
“As an MD he helped so many and we will remember his warmth gen

erosity and kindness.”

Although she didn’t specify what drove her ex to suicide, Jennifer Ashton said his death should serve as a wake up call to anyone with a loved one suffering from depression.
“We know that many families struggle everyday with depression while others like us don’t have any warning,” she wrote. “We hope by sharing some of Rob’s story it will save others the heartache we feel. You are never alone. Pls get help. May he Rest In Peace.”

Robert Ashton had been a thoracic surgery director at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx, according to the Daily Voice, and chief thoracic surgeon at Hackensack University Medical Center.
His body was recovered at Hazard’s Dock in the Palisades Interstate Park.

HOW CAN I KNOW THAT A GUY LOVES ME?

HOW CAN I KNOW THAT A GUY LOVES ME?
Many ladies always ask, "how can I know that a guy loves me?"
Many ladies have lost good guys because they cannot identify good guys. Although guys can pretend, but you can identify a fake guy and you can know whether a guy loves you or not in the following ways:
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1. A fake guy will demand for sex. A real guy will also demand for sex. But a fake guy will quit the relationship if you refuse to have sex with him, while a real guy will not quit even if you don'...

t give him sex.

2. A fake guy shows love and care. A real guy also shows love and care. But watch out! A fake guy will stop to be caring if you commit any offense, but a real guy never stops being caring no matter your offense.

3. A real guy will not like to leave you no matter the situation.

4. A real guy that truly loves you will always apologies even if it is not his fault.

5. Fake guys pamper ladies. Real guys also pamper ladies too. But if a guy pampers you to the extreme, hmm don't trust him. In most cases, fake guys pampers ladies more than the real guys.
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6. When a guy uses too many sweet words all the time, be careful. He may be fake. Real guys that truly love u will use few sweet words.
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7. A real guy that truly loves you will be very concerned about your problems. He will always show much concern about the causes and solutions to your problems. But a fake guy only shows more concern about his own problems.

8. A real guy will spend money on you. Fake guy will also spend money on you. But a fake guy will not give you much money unless you have sex with him. No sex, no money. Fake love.

9. A fake guy will promise to marry you. A real guy will also promise to marry you. But a real guy will always discuss with you about how to build a successful marriage.

10. A real guy can kneel down and even shed tears to beg you never to lose him. A fake guy who does not love you will not do that.

Think Twice!!!

GHANAIAN AND EGYPTIAN PICK $100,000 AU PRIZE FOR SCIENTIFIC EXCELLENCE

Professors Felix Dapare Dakora and Ali Ali Hebeish of Ghana and Egypt respectively have been awarded the 2016 African Union Kwame Nkrumah Scientific Award.
The two scientists were presented the $100,000 prize each on Monday at the 28th African Union Summit in Ethiopia’s capital Addis Ababa.
Ghanaian Felix Dapare Dakora is a Plant and Soil Biotechnology Professor at the Tshwane University of Technology in Pretoria, South Africa.
Professor Dakora won the award for his work on the interaction between legumes and social micro-organisms allowing bacterium to convert the 78% of nitrogen gas in the atmosphere into forms that plants can use among other benefits.
“Because fertilizers are very expensive, we try to actually identify leguminous species which when associated with the soil bacteria can produce a lot of nitrogen,” he explained at a press conference after receiving the award.
Egyptian Ali Ali Hebeish who is an E

meritus Professor of Textile Chemistry won the award for his contribution to the production of suitable textile fibres for apparels, furnishing and technical purposes like lining water canals and medical threads among others.
81-year-old Professor Emeritus Hebeish has over 360 publications to his credit and accredited with 9 patents and 9 books.
The prestigious award was instituted to raise the profile of the science and technology sector in Africa as a whole and thus contributing to Africa’s sustainable development, poverty alleviation and integration efforts.

Nigeria university 'bans tight-fitting clothes'

  The University of Lagos in Nigeria's commercial capital has banned both male and female students from wearing tight-fitting clothes, including trousers, skirts and blouses, local newspapers report.
They quote a management circular as also banning “all clothes which reveal sensitive parts of the body such as the bust, chest, belly, upper arms and the buttocks".

The circular adds:
"Students should maintain a clean and well-cared for appearance in all settings on campus. Wearing of tight, strapless and revealing clothes whose length are above the knees are inappropriate.”

A POPULAR BLOGGER ARRESTED

 A POPULAR BLOGGER ARRESTED

A popular travel blogger known more for his wry observations than his political views has ended up in jail - and at the center of a geopolitical row - after visiting a disputed territory and thumbing his nose at the authorities.
Alexander Lapshin writes the blog "Life Adventures", where he details his transport woes, his visits to odd and unusual sites, and his thoughts on the beauty of local women.
His popular posts hosted on the website LiveJournal feature international politics considerably less often. But his latest trip has landed the 40-year-old Lapshin in a Belarusian jail, and politicians from four countries - including the Russian foreign minister and the President of Belarus - have weighed in on his case.
At issue are Lapshin's repeated visits to the disputed territory of Nagorno-Karabakh . It's internationally recognised as part of Azerbaijan and is totally surrounded by other Azeri territory. However it's almost entirely populated by ethnic Armenians and has been a consistent cause of Armenian-Azeri tensions.
A series of bloody conflicts over Nagorno-Karabakh flared up after the breakup of the Soviet Union, and while an official ceasefire has been in place since 1994, this has been consistently violated, including an outbreak of hostilities in 2016 .
Lapshin's involvement began when he visited Nagorno-Karabakh in 2011 and 2012 and subsequently wrote about those visits in his blog. Azeri prosecutors accuse him of entering the territory illegally and as a result he was banned from visiting Azerbaijan.
Despite this he travelled to Azerbaijan in 2016, this time using a different passport. He holds Russian, Israeli and Ukrainian travel documents, and his Ukrainian passport has a slightly different spelling of his name, which apparently allowed him to bypass the ban.
Azeri authorities also say that Lapshin has called for the region's independence in his blog posts - a claim that is difficult to verify because many of the relevant posts were deleted following his arrest. Under Azeri law, calling for changes to the "territorial integrity" of the country is illegal.
Azerbaijan issued an arrest warrant for Lapshin due to his travels and blog posts, and he was arrested in mid-December while on a visit to Minsk. The Azeri government then asked for Lapshin to be extradited from Belarus to stand trial, and he faces up to 13 years in jail if convicted on all the charges against him.
Although most of Lapshin's original posts discussing Nagorno-Karabakh have now been deleted, one repost of an entry he wrote in April 2016 still exists on another blog.
In it, he declared himself neutral in the dispute between Armenia and Azerbaijan but was critical of the Azeri government and media. "Reading their media gives the impression that the Azerbaijani authorities and journalists believe their own people to be morons," he wrote. "The Azerbaijani army is incapable of storming Karabakh for both strategic and political reasons. If they could do it - they would have done so a long time ago, as 23 years is enough time."
Russia and Israel have weighed in on the issue, calling on Lapshin to be released.
At a press conference in January, Russian Foreign Minister Sergei Lavrov said: "Russia is opposed to the criminalization of visits by journalists or other people to this territory or other territories in different regions. Moscow disagrees with the extradition to a third country of Russians detained abroad."
Nevertheless, the extradition request has continued to wind its way through the Belarusian courts, and Lapshin remains in jail in Minsk.
Belarusian President Alexander Lukashenko has told law enforcement agencies that they should honour the request. At a press conference on Friday he told reporters: "He [Lapshin] was detained in accordance with an Interpol decision, and according to the law we have to pass him to Azerbaijan."
He added: "Of course we could release him, but it would be wrong."
Israeli MP Ksenia Svetlova has also been working for the blogger's release. She persuaded Lapshin to write a letter of apology to the Azeri authorities, who were unmoved.
"They [Lapshin's family] are waiting for some kind of response from the Azeris," Svetlova told BBC Trending.
Svetlova has also asked for guarantees that, in the event of extradition, Lapshin is immediately released if he is extradited to Azerbaijan.
In the meantime, Lapshin's wife Ekaterina has taken over his blog and Facebook account. Ekaterina Lapshin says that she was allowed a one-hour visit in December but has since been denied access to her husband.
She recently wrote on Facebook: "Apparently I won't [be allowed a visit]. 15 days have passed since my request was made and I am not allowed. This is what the prosecutor told me."
She's also used Facebook to express concerns about the standard of the prison that Lapshin is being kept in.
"It's seriously cold… -29 to - 30 in Minsk yesterday," she wrote in January. "This is especially felt in the cell where (Alexander) is held."
Lapshin also has the backing of his fans and many others organising on Russian language social media. On VKontakte, a a change.org petition titled "Freedom of Journalist Alexander Lapshin" has been circulating. And the Armenian National Committee, an organisation of Armenian-Americans, has organised protests outside Belarusian consulates in New York and Washington.
Lapshin is now awaiting a final decision from the Supreme Court of Belarus in the next few days. If his latest appeal is rejected, it will almost certainly mean extradition to Azerbaijan.