HOW TO KEEP A HEALTHY MARRIAGE.

HERE ARE 10 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE ALIVE..
1.   Remind your partner (and yourself) that you appreciate them......  
2.    Say thank you for  the little things....
3.    Practice honesty even when you are ashamed......
4.    Take care of your appearance.......
5.    Foster relationships outside your marriage..........
6.    Watch and mind your words........
7.    Put away anything that will bring problems of any sort..........
8.    Remind each other how much you love your partner.......
9.    Create time to spend time with each other............
10.       Make your partner feel young again by letting them know how beautiful and handsome they look............
    
  10 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR LONG -TERM MARRIAGE HAPPIER, STARTING TODAY.
The honey  moon period in most marriages has a shelf life. But does that mean you can't bring back those tingly feelings of excitement and anticipation everyone experience at the beginning of a relationship? Absolutely not. All marriages maneuver through rough patches. Some don't survive long enough to come out the other side. But many do. Here are 10 ways to keep your marriage alive.
1. REMIND YOUR PARTNER (AND YOURSELF) THAT YOU APPRECIATE THEM.
After you have been married for so many years, that passionate kiss when your partner returns from work can easily morph into a peck on the cheek  that can then morph into an inability to even look up from what ever you are doing at that particular time. There is a real danger in that when somethings you do at first when you got married start to drop may even after so years of your marriage. Studies shows that nearly half of men who have cheated says it's was because of emotional dissatisfaction- and not sex. When men don't feel connected or appreciated by their wives,  they are vulnerable to the advances of any attractive woman who casts a lustful glance their way.
2. SAY THANK YOU FOR THE LITTLE THINGS.
I've been guilty of keeping scores, constantly calculating who had had done what. "I cleaned out the kids room, so you will have do the laundry, I did this and that  positive things  your partner does in a day and then thank them. Hopefully they'll get the hint and do the same for you.
for you when we first got married,  so now you will have to do that and this for me now. "I initiated sex the last time, so now it's your turn . But playing tit for tat is childish and will do nothing but take away the trust and connection you've built with your spouse. If you are so inclined to be keeping scores of all the
3. PRACTICE HONESTY, EVEN WHEN YOU'RE ASHAMED.
   If you have  mapped out money for a thing or two and find yourself hiding the bill each month or each two months, you can bet it's going to come back and bite you. Eventually this kinds of money issues will be brought to light one day one way or the other. Although infidelity usually happens in bed, it also can happen with money. And it will be a tough road gaining back your spouses trust if you have lied about over spending.
 Along the same vein , if you feel you aren't connecting with your partner the way
You used to, you need to say something now. Before things gets out line and you will both find yourself  in a danger zone, we're by for the both of you to get back on track will  only take the grace of God and hard work, months of counseling.
4.  TAKE CARE OF YOUR APPEARANCE.
 

  with many years of marriage and a few kids under your belt, it's easy to let your appearance slide. Think about when you first met your partner would you have walked around in a stained cloth and without brushing your teeth? My guess is no. Sometimes my husband will say wow you look nice as I am walking out the door to spend time with my girlfriends. At least pay your spouse the same courtesy you do to your friends by fixing yourself up for him or her every once in a while.
5.  FOSTER RELATIONSHIPS OUTSIDE YOUR MARRIAGE.
     I do always go on trips with my girlfriends as I've been married. Yes I love going on trips with my spouse and two kids. But these weekends away with my friends are also important swapping stories with others and enjoying new experiences ma
ke- I hope a more interesting person for my spouse to be around. Time apart is good, it gets romantic because even the conversations on the phone get more romantic you need some distance.


6. WATCH YOUR WORDS.
 

There are many things you should never say to a long time spouse, the first being: don't you think our neighbour is attractive? That's a question you don't think you want to know the answer to.  It's also never a good idea to start a sentence with: you know it's always been your problem.... who wants to hear that from their partner? You always..... or you never think it. Neither of these is true if you start a sentence with these words your mate is certain to shut down or start a fight. Stop for a minute and think about what you really mean to say and say that instead.

7.  PUT AWAY ANYTHING THAT WILL BRING PROBLEMS OF ANY SORT.
Now we all know that nobody is perfect, it's good you try to avoid anything that will bring  dispute in your marriage.... anything at all that will make your neighbours intervene or hear your voices. Anything that will bring problems in marriage t
hat will take you 5steps or 10steps backwards in your marriage it's best you abstain from it,  if you know that something your partner doesn't like or don't even want to hear try not to do it or say it.
8. REMIND EACH OTHER OF HOW MUCH YOU LOVE YOUR PARTNER.
  You can remind your partner of how much you love them by taking them out,  spending some alone time together away from the kids. Reminding them constantly each and every day how you love your partner,  might be just the kind of words you use, or gift or can just do something you usually don't do.
9. CREATE TIME TO SPEND WITH EACH OTHER.
   Take a vacation or weekend getaway, the same four walls can really close in on a couple after a while. Everyone knows spending time with your partner is important. After all too much apart is just as bad as too little. But can you really say it's quality time?
  1. Remember why you fell in love with your partner,  if it was big flashy date make big and flashy again. If it wasn't just keep it simple. The point is to do a little emotional time travel to before the jobs,bills, kids, and family become the focus of your lives.
2. Have a fancy night in.
      Make a night of it by making some order(order in) putting your best wear and your nicest shoes, popping a bottle of wine and playing your partners favourite music.

3. Enjoy some bath time with your partner.
      Everyone likes to be pampered and fussed over every once in while and a bath is an intimate way to get closer. Get your partners favourite drink or wine and yes of course coke or any type of soft drink is fine if your partner doesn't drink alcohol), light some candles, burn a little incense, and run them a warm bath.
                  
  Once they're in the tub, help them wash those hard-working reach areas. This is a great sex way to relax enjoy or cap off a night or start one.
4. Have a pillow fight.
     Pillow fight sounds childish, but that's the whole point. Wear your pajamas,  put your mattress on the floor and have at it! Plus did I forget to mention that it's a great way to relieve stress. Just remember not to be too rough. The whole point of this is to amuse your partner and make him or her laugh.
10. MAKE YOUR PARTNER FEEL YOUNG AGAIN BY LETTING THEM KNOW HOW BEAUTIFUL AND HANDSOME THEY LOOK......