MARRIAGE IS YOUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP

Marriage is the most important relationship of your life. Nothing else comes even close to the importance of your relationship with your wife. Why is this? Because life was designed to be built on the foundation of a stable family life, which in turn is built upon a good marital relationship. If every marriage was a happy, fulfilling, stable relationship there would be much less problems in the world. I know this sounds like a sweeping statement, but it has been proven over and over again that destructive behavior often stems from either having a bad marriage or having grown up in a house where there was one.

HOW TO AVOID RUINING YOUR MARRIAGE?

If you do the things mentioned warned against below, you will be guaranteed to ruin your marriage, or at least destroy any relationship that you might have had with your wife. Therefore you have to pay close attention to them if you want to maintain a sound relationship with your wife (or if you want to improve your relationship).

RULE 1: NEVER BE UNFAITHFUL TO YOUR PARTNER

This is a biggie. Marriage is sacred - whether you are religious or not. Being unfaithful to your partner does not only prove to her that you disrespect her, but also that you are untrustworthy. Simply never even think about doing it, much less actually doing it. The excitement of an illicit affair is simply not worth the pain it brings.

RULE 2: NEVER LIE TO YOUR PARTNER

Being truthful, and speaking only the truth, is the only way to ensure that you are never "caught out." If you lie to your partner you will be caught out at some stage, and then he/she will wonder how many other lies you have told him/her, and whether you can be trusted at all. It might be painful to tell the truth, but it is always less painful than being caught out lying.

1. Proverbs 12:22 Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, But those who deal faithfully are His delight.
2. Colossians 3:9-10 Do not lie to one another, for you have stripped off the old nature with its practices and have clothed yourselves with the new nature, which is being renewed in full knowledge, consistent with the image of the one who created it.
3. Proverbs 13:5 A righteous person hates deceit, but the wicked person is shameful and disgraceful.
4. Proverbs 12:19 Truthful words stand the test of time, but lies are soon exposed.

RULE 3: NEVER LISTEN HALF-HEARTEDLY WHEN HETALKS

Not listening when someone speaks is rude and shows disrespect for the person. If you do this your partner will grow to resent talking to you, and that is not a good position to get into in your relationship. Concentrate on what he/she says, and respond intelligently.

RULE 4: DON'T NEGLECT TO ASSIST WITH HOUSEHOLD TASKS

This is an area where many men are guilty. If you do not assist your wife with the household tasks you communicate to her that she is only your slave. On its own it can already destroy any feelings that your wife has for you, and together with the other things we mention it just makes things worse. Help her with household tasks - and not only every now and then either. No, make it a habit to help her, and watch how her respect for you grows.

RULE 5: DO NOT POINT OUT HIS/HER SHORTCOMINGS

We all have shortcomings because nobody is perfect. I bet you don't like it when someone points out your shortcomings to you, do you? No? Then do you think your partner enjoys it? Of course he/she doesn't.  In the case of women, she likes it even less when the person closest to her - her husband - is the one bringing it up. Only someone with a caveman attitude could argue that she "just has to take it" because she is inferior in any case. She is not inferior - God has made her extra special, in fact.

RULE 6: DO NOT LIE ON THE COUCH / WATCH TV WHILE HE/SHE WORKS

We get back to the slave issue again. In the previous article I already pointed out that you should not let your husband/wife get the impression that he/she is only a slave to you. Lying on the couch and leaving your husband/wife to do all the work is nothing other than letting her be your slave. This type of behavior screams at your husband/wife that you have no respect for her. If you indulge in this behavior you should NOT be surprised if  he/she leaves you for someone who treats her with respect.

RULE 7: HELP HER WITH THE CHILDREN

We are decades past the time when it was the "little woman's job" to raise the kids, while her husband went out with his buddies. Not helping her with the kids - that YOU helped her produce, by the way - is not only part of your responsibility, but will also strengthen your relationship both with your wife and your children. An actively involved father is one way of ensuring well-balanced kids.

RULE 8: DO NOT COMPARE HIM/HER TO OTHER WOMEN OR MEN

How many guys or ladies can be married to the most beautiful woman or man on earth? Only one, because there is only one most beautiful woman and handsome men. The others are second most beautiful/handsome, third most beautiful/handsome, etc. So there are ample opportunities to see women with lovelier hair, more beautiful eyes, trimmer figures, better legs, a tighter butt, slimmer tummy, etc. than your wife. But do you really have to pint this out? How would you like it if she begins to compare you to Kevin Costner, Brad Pitt and Leonardo di Caprio? Or to the better looking guy next door? Keep away from this destructive behavior and rather look for things to compliment her on. That will build you relationship rather than breaking it.

RULE 9: DO NOT CRITICIZE EVERYTHING HE/SHE DOES

Remember that criticism is one of the most destructive things we can do, so beware of this. If you want to criticize, rather think of another way of approaching the issue. Instead of saying, "Not fish again? You know I hate fish!" you could say, "Honey, even though I don't like fish, I know that the Omega oils are good for me and that you prepare it because you care for my health." That takes the criticism - and therefore the sting - out of what you say.

RULE 10: DO NOT LEAVE HIM/HER SEXUALLY UNSATISFIED

A proper orgasm (or two or three or four orgasms) is something that gives your wife massive joy. It is your task, no your privilege, to assist her to reach massively satisfying, mind blowing orgasms. You should not have a "get" attitude towards sex (getting what you want), but rather a "give" attitude (giving him/her what he/she wants). If you just get on her, and roll over once you are done, then there is no joy in it for your wife. Remember that to your wife sex is almost as much an emotional act as it is a physical one. Learn all you can about becoming the type of lover for whom your wife/husband will be glad to strip his/her clothes because you satisfy both him/her emotional and physical sexual needs.

SUMMARY

The Partner who does the things warned against in this article shows his/her lack of love and respect for his/her wife/husband by doing them. If you do these 10 things that this article warns about, you will be showing your lack of love and respect for your husband/wife. By avoiding them, you will be communicating to your husband/wife that he/she is in fact the most important person in your life.