ADVANTAGES OF BIENG SINGLE.

ADVANTAGES OF BEING SINGLE.

BEING SINGLE IS A LOT WISER THAN BEING IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP.

We live in a society where people feel that you must have a partner with whom you can live happily ever after. And for some people they just have partners to make a statement. I do agree that being with a loving partner your life is a bliss but being single is also not a punishment,  you can be happy even if you are single.

NO EMOTIONAL DRAMA.

when you are in a relationship, you always want to keep it intact. For you to archive that you have to take care of your partners emotions and you have to ignore your wishes, in fact many lovers spend sleepless night if something goes wrong in their relationships, it's not that being in relationship is a bad thing. But you do have to face up and downs to keep your relationship to keep your relationship working. Thus if you are single enjoy your life to the fullest.

A NEW RELATIONSHIP.
Being single doesn't mean you are lonely or desperate to start a new relationship, you you can try to have someone who deserves to be your partner, make time to think about the kind of partner  your life need and start searching for one. It's always worth a wait for a right partner than wasting your time by being, with someone just for the heck of it.

THE OTHER SIDE.

If you are grief then you might want to ask your close friends, who are in a relationship committed , married or lovers. They try to look awesome and loving in front of others but they do a lot to keep their relationships healthy. They have to adjust , sacrifice and feel emotional pain, thus enjoy your time being single and get your self ready for that special somebody whom you will be ready to spend all your time with.

YOU CAN TRAVEL ON A WHIM.

  how do you think a romantic partner would react if you woke up and decide to move overseas, or take a cruise to a tropical destination. They won't be happy if you don't include them in that decision, single people how ever have the freedom to travel without hesitation. 

YOU CAN FLIRT WITHOUT FEAR.

everyone for its sometimes whether single or not, but it could none the less lead to an awkward situation if a single person ends up developing feelings for somebody who is romantically involved . If you love to flirt, the single hood might be for you.

 

DISADVANTAGES OF BEING SINGLE.

DISADVANTAGES OF BEING SINGLE.

LONELINESS:

loneliness is the most miserable happenings in life, which can be horrible to see. This can go off only by a caring partner or a trustworthy friend, feeling lonely can also affect you psychologically and then it becomes a serious problem.

ROUTINE LIFE:

When you are lonely you loose the possibility of taking a nice little break with someone who means so much to you, it can turn really boring and stressful and may lead to unwanted tension.

CLOSED GENERATION:

When single the person loses interest and feels dejected in family life this can increase pain in his life, you might not feel it in your young age and when you real

ise your mistakes of being single after being aged, because of being alone his generation will break up.

INCREASED STRESS:

stress can be major part of being lonely and unwanted tension can increase to a very great extent and this can certainly make problems in your life without you knowing the exact meaning of what it is. This tension and stress will be directly reflected in your work and you may loose the potential of handling stress and being sharp at work.

LOST CARE AND COMFORT:

you might be the bravest person in the world, it might help you in critical situations all times, but when you have some one to care for you, this gives you a lot of comfort which you may feel much soothing than the problems most proactive solution method.

WHY DO MEN CHEAT.

WHY DO MEN CHEAT.

SEVEN REASONS EVEN THE HAPPIEST HUSBANDS CHEAT.

infidelity is a heartbreak no one should ever have to deal, but when it happens, most couples are left with questions. But if you and your husband were happily married when he cheated these can explain how this happened.

HE IS COVERING UP INSECURITIES.
Your husband can be a great spouse. And as great he can be he might be under a lot of pressure to make sure he meets the needs of you and everyone else in the family. But deep down he could be dying silently.

Does he feel like it's impossible for him to succeed as a parent? If he is under lots of pressure to keep you and everyone else in the family happy, he might not feel comfortable revealing those problems, instead of being able to talk about their
  But have deeper needs that are going unfulfilled, it's the need to fulfill those deeper needs and they been unable to talk about them makes them try to get fulfilled in secrecy. ( example; by having an affair).

insecurities, wants, regrets they prefer to continue living a life that makes them only superficially happy.

IT'S EASIER TO LOOK FOR SOMETHING NEW RATHER THAN TALK ABOUT EXPECTATIONS.

Men don't just need sex; they need emotional connection ( just like women). Unfortunately, it's normally painful for a man to tell his wife he doesn't feel appreciated. He would prefer to shove those emotional disappointment at the back of his head then deal with them later.

That later is very scary. Eventually those emotions will surface again and if he feels more appreciated from a different source, it will be hard for him to resist.

CHEATING  MAKES HIM LESS VULNERABLE TO ONE PERSON.

 Incas you don't know emotions play a great role more in infidelity than we all think. For some men it's very hard to express how he feels even to himself.
(See above)

 But marriage is all about being vulnerable to one person, if he can spread out his life's intimate details between two people, then he will feel less vulnerable  (and dependent ) on one person.

HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO BALANCE LOVE WITH ROMANCE.

  feeling liked, loved, and safe is a basic human need, sometimes we humans also crave for adventure and mystery. As a matter of fact balancing the two in a marriage is very hard. And there is nothing more opposite of adventure than routine, sometimes especially happily married men enjoy the comfort of reliability and love from their wife, but look else where for a thrill.

HE DIDN'T MEAN TO.

Most cheating men feel guilty during the affair, most unfaithful men will say they never dream they would ever cheat on their wife, this is not comforting, but it shows how c careful couples need to be to prevent accidental affairs from sneaking in.

IT'S NOT ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK.

  Please don't ever compare yourself and never look down on how beautiful you are, your husband didn't cheat on because he wanted some one more attractive. There is no amount of make up or make over that you do that will make a cheater less likely to cheat.

HIS BEST FRIEND HAD AN AFFAIR.

Seventy percent of cheating men had a good friend who had an affair first. If a friend your husband respects and loves can justify an affair then your husband might start to view affairs less damaging.

Whatever the reason for the affair the most important thing I want you to remember is that you are worth loving, don't allow your husbands mistake make you feel worthless.

Help, healing and God by your side it's what you need if you find yourself in this type of situation.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE CHOOSING THE RIGHT PARTNER FOR YOU.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE CHOOSING THE RIGHT PARTNER FOR YOU.
Majority of us know what is like to choose the wrong type of person to be in a relationship with. It's common experience to feel like you don't make good decisions when it  comes   to love, it's either you don't know how to tell if someone's right for you to start with, or you just a partner only to find out that it isn't a good match in the end.
If you don't trust yourself to choose well, you're bound to feel uneasy and not so sure when looking for love, and we all k

now that's not a good position to be in. I believe there is way to be sure that you are choosing the right person for you and that is what article is all about.
 In order to create full loving relationships, you have to first find the love within ourselves.
Now when it comes to making decision in your life, what you have to ask yourself is am I making this decision from the energy of fear, or am I making this decision from the energy of love? I will explain the difference and it's importance.
Your energy dictates how your life unfolds. Everything you experience is an extension of what is inside of you. If you feel connected to yourself inside, your energy reflects that connection. You feel alive knowing full and loved; and these inner connection courses you to feel stable.
WHEN YOU CHOOSE SOMEONE FROM FEAR, IT FEEL LIKE:
1. I want to feel loved.
2. I am hurting from a break up.
3. I am lonely.
4. I want to feel seen.
5. I want to know that am special.
ON THE OTHER HAND, WHEN YOU CHOOSE SOMEONE FROM LOVE. IT FEELS LIKE:
1. I honor who I am and want to honor my soul mate.
2. I love my life and look forward to sharing it with someone.
3. I have so much love with in and excited to share it with a partner.
4. When I stand in my truth, I know I am meant to have an incredible relationship.
  Choices made from love will always create more love, because they are an extension of that energy an extension of love. It makes sense why we'd seek love and connection out of fear (because it doesn't feel good to be lonely or discount connected).
Whatever energy you are leading with is going to be put in to the relationship you made. You can't attract the right person or partner from the position of fear. You need to do the internal work first, by finding love with in yourself, when you find love with in yourself your life and relationship become infused with it. It's as simple as that.
All you need to do is to find and cultivate the love within you , by doing so you would not have to worry about making the wrong choices.
Please leave a comment by telling us how you are going to start making more decisions from a position of love.

HOW TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT PARTNER IN LIFE.

HOW TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT PARTNER IN LIFE.
We all need someone in our lives and the same time want to find the right partner, nobody wants be alone or die alone, unfortunately some people don't get to find the right person for them. With the help of this article It guides you to finding your Mr/Mrs right.
Step1. FIRST FIND SOMEONE WHOM YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO.
 When someone is not the right partner for you, you can't be attracted to them. And make sure you don't like the person because of there look, remember beauty is only skin deep. If you find someone who is very beautiful or handsome, his/her personality may not tally with yours, its better you are with someone who is good looking and whose personality is great? If you are attracted to someone or love someone just for the looks, then the person is not right for you.
Step2. NOW, FIND INTEREST BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR POTENTIAL PARTNER.
 When you find your potential partner you can enjoy doing things together without getting bored, many a times, having some differences requires you or your partner to sacrifice one's desire for the happiness of the other. Eventually might lead to pride problems and misunderstandings, it is good if you choose a potential partner who shares a lot of common interest with you. Note that they don't have to be all the same interest as yours, because it will get bored some times, but being with someone with a difference interest makes life more exciting because you get to experience some of his/her interest.
Step3. CONSIDER YOU AND YOUR PARTNER INTELLECT.
 If you have achieved too many honors and your partner is way back and would prefer to just sit at home and watch TV all day that could pose a threat to your relationship. It is very important that you see eye to eye in terms of how you both are able to reason and process things. It may sound shallow first but just imagine yourself talking to a person who frustrates you because he/she cannot fathom what you are saying or doing. You don't have to be both geniuses, but you need to have around the same intellect level.
Step4.  WHEN CHOOSING A FUTURE PARTNER, IT'S OKAY TO HAVE A STANDARD.
 It's just like if you want to hire someone for a job. You will check if he/she fit the description on which your ideal partner should be? Don't forget don't just choose whoever. It's your potential life partner! You can't just pick someone off the street to hire for a job, then why would you want to pick a random person as your partner?
Step5. MAKE SURE THAT BOTH OF YOU RESPECT EACH OTHER.
 You can't spend your life with someone else who has no respect for you, your dreams, your goals, and above all your personality. Your partner should always respect each other.
Step6. IS YOUR POTENTIAL PARTNER TRUSTWORTHY? CAN YOU TRUST YOUR PARTNER TO KEEP YOUR SECRET?
Step7. SPEND TIME TOGETHER.
 How can you tell if he or she is the right partner for you if you don't spend time together? Go out on dates with your partner and go to different places with him or her get to know each other well enough,  after all if you two decides to spend the rest of your lives together, you can't do that if the two of you can't stand to spend a day together.
Thank you and God bless you. Feel free to send in your questions
        
        

HAVE I LOST MY WIFE TO ANOTHER MAN?

HAVE I LOST MY WIFE TO ANOTHER MAN?

Dave and Clara have been married 4 over nine years without children. They stayed with each other and hoped that they will have a child before their 10th year of marriage because they were being persuaded by family and some friends to get a divorce but they couldn’t let go because of the love between them. Months passed...by and while Dave was returning from work one day, he saw his wife walking down the road with a man and they looked happy. Another evening, while Dave was coming back from work, he saw the same man drop her off at the house. 

Dave became angry and sad. Two days later, after a hectic day at work, Dave was taking water with a glass jug when the phone rang. He picked it up and the person said ‘hello dear, I’ll be coming to your house this evening to see you as promised. I hope .....’’ and then Dave hung up the phone. It was a male voice. He was sure the person was the man he had seen with his wife. He suddenly became shaky with this thought, ‘’Have i lost my wife to another man?’’ At that point, the glass jug fell from his hand and shattered into pieces. Then Clara came running into the room asking, ‘’Is everything okay?’’ In anger he gave his wife a push and she fell. She wasn’t moving or getting up. Dave then realised that she fell where he broke the glass jug and a large piece of glass has pierced her. He felt her breath, pulse and heartbeat but there she lay lifeless. His wife was dead. In

total confusion, he saw an envelope in her hand. He took it, opened it and was shocked by its content. It was a letter and it reads: ‘’ My loving husband, words cannot express how I feel, so i had to write it down. I have been going to see a doctor for over a week and wanted to be sure before I give you the news. The doctor confirmed it that I am pregnant with a twin and our babies are due in 7 months from now. The doctor also happen to be my long lost brother whom I lost contact with after our marriage. He has promised to take care of me and our babies and give us the best without collecting a dime. He also promised to have dinner with us today. Thanks to you for standing by me your loving wife”.

As the letter fell from Dave’s hand, there was a knock at the door and it was the same man he had seen with his wife... and he said ......hello Dave, I suppose am right, am Max, your wife’s brother.....’’And suddenly he noticed his sister in the pool of her blood .... he rushed her to his hospital but it was too late, his sister, Dave’s wife was gone and so were the twins..

LESSON:

 In our relationships, which include our marriage, we should not be too quick in reacting when we haven’t questioned our partner or spouse on what we saw or heard about them. Communication, Trust and Patience are rare gifts we can bring to our relationship. Not everything we see or hear or believe is right about them. And to every man or woman on this platform, I pray that patience will have her perfect way in you and you will want nothing because patience is that great virtue you need to keep any relationship working.

BAD ATTITUDES OF NURSES

Got this revelation and am sharing with us, for us to go ahead and teach other..
Most Nurses working in Government hospitals are suffering today because of their attitude towards patience and the owners of the patience. They take life for granted, talk to people rude and in a manner-less way. Some people die in hospitals with great pain in their heart, not because of the sickness ohh but because of the attitude of the nurse towards the sick person in the hospital, some always course the nurses.
They have forgotten what the bible said
Psalm 51:17: [The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; A broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise. ] even God Himself does not overlook a broken heart
Some people after loosing their love one because of the careless attitude of the nurses, they go back and do some juju on the nurse or doctor and you see it working on them.
My ADVICE:
Be careful how to handle people, how you talk to them because some of them can be a blessing to you or a course to you also when handled in a wrong way.
Don't think that you can't get sick, you can see yourself in worse condition and remember what the baby said ohhh
Matthew 7:12 : [“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets."]
In your position, see it that God want to work through you. God bless you
he nurses towards them and when they are dying with that bitt

NEVER LOSE HOPE IN LIFE

NEVER LOSE HOPE IN LIFE
Over time I've discovered there is no absolute finish line for everyone in the race of life. Our tracks are different and our duration are different. The only thing we have in common is the same empire. For instance, one person graduates @age 20 and struggles for another 5 years to get a job, another might graduate @ 25 and get a job immediately. One can marry a virgin and wait for the next decade to have the blessing of children, another lady probably after having series of abortions in her past bec

omes a mother almost immediately after marriage. A fellow becomes MD @ 38 and dies @ 56, another becomes MD @ 55 and lives to 90. What a life? Life is full of twists, turns, ups and downs and many more surprises and disappointments. Life offers each and everyone of us different opportunities and once an opportunity is lost, it's gone forever except by the grace of God. It is up to each one of us to patiently prepare, wait, recognize and utilize every opportunity. We learn on the way. No one has it all or knows it all. There is a reason why we all don't fall @the same time, It's so that when one is down, weak and discouraged, the other who is strong can encourage and lift the other person. God never promises that the road would be easy, but He promised never to leave or forsake us. Although life is complicated, let us learn to go easy on ourselves and trust that God is working it all out for our good (even if it doesn't make sense now). Whatever trials,challenges or down times we face, all shall pass and in due course, we will be up and strong again to lift up those who may be down around us. NEVER LOOSE HOPE... We all have a story to tell someday... Pass this on to your friends to encourage them in their journey called LIFE.
Have a blessed day!